My husband is Swiss. Proposals from former stakeholders - Switzerland (!)

The illusion of rapid demolition that is being created

This lilianova rose disappears in the first months of stay in the new houseIf we couldn't see her life and ourselves in that life because of the iron curtain and shut ourselves out, I don't think any of us would have the courage to get married. On the other hand, it is very difficult for an educated and independent woman who does not close her eyes to many things and does not create illusions, to get married.

Do you do business or betray? Then, planning the wedding. This lilianova rose disappears in the first months of stay in the new house.

If we couldn't see her life and ourselves in that life because of the iron curtain and shut ourselves out, I don't think any of us would have the courage to get married.

On the other hand, it is very difficult for an educated and independent woman who does not close her eyes to many things and does not create illusions, to get married.

At that time, planning a wedding with a foreigner and going abroad was like this case. To invite the groom, it was necessary to collect dozens of signatures, characteristics and permissions. Then the tests began at the time of transfer of all documents to OVIR. I remember that because of the comma, we switched between a translator, a notary and chief OVIR for five hours (and these are different districts of Moscow). When the last paragraph was agreed and Gaga and the unsympathetic Swiss husband followed their fate and did not resist, I decided to celebrate my victory in the bar of the Intourist hotel.

Now it is clean (instead of the demolished skyscraper of the Intourist hotel - a five-star hotel was built-Pro Ed.), but fifteen years ago, just come in, it was not like that.

At the entrance, we were stopped by a guard: Where? I gave the identity of the bride and groom and asked them to go to the bar."Skip the Intourist and wait here."But I'm his fiancee,"I was trying to protect her rights."Here, if you're my wife, come over."When I became his wife, I didn't want to leave. The next stage of humiliation was leaving the Newspapers. Because that's what I was thinking. especially sorry, it was more like my useless military xivu. To all those who remained there, on this side, I was a traitor. Alone, I felt like a Martyr to a happy future, and I thought my husband should just appreciate it. But the fact that he did not beat the Swiss with his own liver did not cause much emotion. But when we left the country, we missed the passport.

Today, it is practically easy to leave it, but Swiss law seems to have been tightened as a result of retribution.

For many years, people have been dependent on so-called"residence permits". This addiction on a leash keeps you close to your husband, and yesterday hunters at the very gun suddenly became prey to a web of rules, laws, and circumstances. But in any case, after you have decided to marry a Swiss man, you should at least consider the experience of other people, and let me give you some advice. Do not try to search in Swiss Russian. Differences in mentality are expected at the genetic level. But try to instill some purely Russian habits and understanding, which is also very useful.

It will be easier for you to perceive a foreign element next to it.

You must learn your husband's native language. It turns out then, and give it some conversation approaching (but not necessarily, for God's sake) Russian. If you notice that certain language preferences are missing, remember that everything went well. It is not enough to save her small island of independence, but she can cultivate without being afraid to discuss all the problems with Russian friends and acquaintances, without risking involving her husband in a meaningless discussion. But knowledge of the husband's language is still necessary.

The Swiss see their wife primarily as a partner, and this is very different from the relationship with a woman that we are used to at home.

I love a woman and give her feelings, but at the same time gifts, the Swiss do not know this. If he is already married to you, then it becomes incomprehensible, because you should dress better. all of them, and probably more expensive than all of them.

If you spend her or other people's money on it, take it for granted.

The most important thing for him is that you don't need money. Of course, it is somehow better to earn and have your own money. And here many women face the problem of how and where to find a job. The youngest girls have all the opportunities for retraining or confirming their education. It would be better if they did not waste time and chose the direction in which their future business, reasoning with which the fastest and easiest way to work is to find a job with a decent wage. If it is possible to participate in your husband's activities, be careful, as if he has not started saving You (Your salary) money.

For older women, this problem sometimes becomes impossible, and you have to rely on a prestigious job and a miserable salary, and then and always worse and worse constantly husband-husband or pensioner on the verge of the end.

The illusion of a faster demolition that is being created

Stinginess, the Swiss have long taken refuge in proverbs. Change this national impossible goal. Learn to ignore it.

Another family problem.

For all of them, relatives and friends, you are United, and you have suffered in some financial interests: children, ex-wife, brothers and sisters, and after them, grandchildren. If Your divorced husband is in the presence of children, be prepared for what special material benefits will not have to wait for in the coming years.

The richer the husband, the more money goes to the side.

That he is poorer, plus the burden of payments from the judge. Swiss husbands of choice very much want you to have a child, because the judge in Switzerland always decides in favor of the mother and child and pays bills that do not please the Swiss. Don't forget another feature of this country: You are here with the accused because of her husband's debts.

If you happen to be a gambler, alcoholic, or drug addict, you run the risk of being financially enslaved by the state.

Dottie, if you're Swiss? They speak two or more languages, which sometimes show extraordinary experience in the field of translation.

No wonder, because since childhood they travel all over the world, and languages are learned in school, otherwise they can not explain in the country.

As for the General level of education, they were less fortunate. Switzerland's intellectual property, it's a very thin airspace that they like to read, and that's the tone in all the TV discussion programs. The rest are affected or strongly hint at their apparent ignorance. The Swiss can be very good specialists when it comes to what directly concerns them, but when the problem becomes broader, the intervention of other specialists is urgently needed. And here we already have a team of intelligent people working on a problem that requires only poraskinut's brain skills to solve. It is difficult to sit down and think about ordinary Swiss, not everyone is capable of it. And sad because of what you need to think about, and even sadder because of what you need to think about. Here Russian refusal is sad music. But for many people of these, fits into all the richness of Russian culture: both literary, musical, and dance. Thus, bringing your children to this blessed country, you officially do not trust its educational system and devote more time to your children, who soon did not lose a single stock of knowledge brought from Switzerland, Ukraine, etc.

And even more for them have not lost their language.

The Swiss are very happy to make a statement.

Even if it's mostly you don't know the language, it's tolerable.

But when you understand what is being said, the idea that you are being held for the last joke gets into your sometimes fragmentary thoughts.

Do not give in to this temptation, the Swiss did not think anything about it only when it is difficult to distinguish the essential from the accidental, for him the banality is sometimes veiled by beings. Therefore, the Swiss remain slaves to prejudice and representativeness, and their conservatism sometimes knows no borders. And since she is already living with a Russian woman, the pious Swiss he will take with him all the stories about the aggressiveness and backwardness of the Russians. If your husband is like this and cannot overcome this long-standing distrust, and if he comes to Your house and starts looking his nose in your eyes at what he has seen or eaten, then this should be a warning signal for You. If your husband likes you and lives upstairs with you, then start teaching respect for everything that is valuable to you. And for this, and for himself, to respect what is dear to him. Live in your husband's world, no matter how interesting it may be for him and for you. But he failed to comply with the interests of your Swiss husband. After a few years, he became quite beautiful, because suddenly he felt empty, without a stick, and with him, and with his inner world. The greatest tragedy happens over time in those families where a young Russian wife decides to become the most Swiss.

Only Russians work, she closes herself up to her husband and seems to give herself up to Frank happiness in the family.

Just a few years andall the forces that are seeking a divorce and they incite hatred towards the whole of Switzerland. If an Italian follows her husband, then the French drawing is conservatism, typically Swiss, here it is very restrained in the expression of emotions, especially positive ones. Extended gestures of the soul, and even more so of the purse, are not innate from the organic. When they sit for more than two hours at a Banquet table, they don't notice, not to mention meaningless conversations about meaningless breaks, that their Russians need a holiday. Do not try to create problems, but think ahead and invite to his party those who can share with you the flight of the Russian soul. Or because your party didn't ruin your husband's face, invite him in anyway and put him next to him. Most of what I want to say is Because so far, fifteen years of living together with the most common Swiss people have led to many reflections and conclusions. I've never cried at night, trying to sort through a lot of misunderstandings for even a day.

And not only did I live with your Swiss husband for many years, but I also spent him and her last trip together.

Another person has left, he is already the second and a half. Whether I am happy or not to have been in Switzerland all these years is a rather personal question. The most important thing is that my conscience is clear."A few months ago, I came to Switzerland to visit his girlfriend, who has been studying at the private faculty of Lausanne University for two years, and an economist. She showed me around the University and introduced me to some of the faculty and students. I didn't like it very much, so I decided to practice at this University. I went to the immigration service to apply for a study permit. The office did not have my dossier stating that it was necessary to apply for a visa to the Swiss Embassy in Geneva.

If this is true, why was it easier to get a permit directly in the country.




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